Narcissistic Parents: When They Realize They Lost You

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When they realize they've lost you, they send your flying monkey siblings to guilt you and try to manipulate you.

It's easiest just to leave your narcissistic parents behind than to maintain ties. Find a new life in a new place far away even if it's lonely and hard.

When narcissistic parents realize they lost you, their inner child screams, "Get back here, you doormat!" 😤

Something I've learned in recovery from a lifetime of narcissistic abuse is that you have to advocate for yourself because no one else will. What YOU want is just as important as everyone else, and you should never have to suffer to make someone else happy.

I just realized the most toxic thing ever. When a person says " I love you" and not truly mean it, just as a narcissistic entrapment tactic.

The more I hear about narcissism the less distinct the line appear between evil and mental illness

It's abhorrent that so called family want you to be miserable. They aren't family members, they're demons. Sperate and never look bad. Love is kind and free, not cruel and forced bondage like. ❤❤❤

They didn't lose me, they lost themselves.

My mother used to say to me over and over, “Oh, Ron, you’ve changed so much. You used to be such a good kid growing up…” Often, her idea of me “being a bad kid” was merely my respectfully disagreeing with her. Not to mention the fact that my parents were completely clueless to the fact that I was absolutely miserable growing up dealing with all their toxicity….

They hate individuation.

That's why no contact is the best bet because you don't have to go through any of that nonsense back and forth with them and slowly teach them and explain to them how to behave. That is too draining. Thank God I went no contact in October 1995.

My whole tribe lost me not only my family or family members . Good tribes never betray their families never stalk them and never harm them.

When we are born into narcissistic parents, we don't know any difference until we start venturing out into the world. Sometimes, we realize that our parents are hurtful and narcissists, we brush it off especially those like me who were raised in a "religious" home. I've talked to and witnessed many family dynamics when people would reminisce with family and their parents about fun, loving memories of childhood which went on for hours, some went on for days. I can count on one hand semi- good childhood memories. My narcissistic father passed away several years ago. I'm left to deal with my mother. My parents divorced when I was 6 and me being the oldest of 3, I was left to tend to my younger siblings. Yes, at the age of 6. When the straw and the camel's back came together was when I was taking a business trip several years ago when I had to call for a shareride. To my surprise, a sweet elderly lady came to pick me up to take me to the airport. She had a beautiful, loving energy as I got into her car and sat on the driver's seat. We chatted while we were in traffic and time seemed to have flown so quickly. I sincerely enjoyed that car ride with her and I was disappointed that it was ending. As I exited her car, I saw her exited and rushed over to my side to give me a big , tight motherly loving hug and wished me a safe trip. I felt her sincerity and love when she hugged me. She may have felt that I needed it. I thanked her and handed her some cash. I checked in my baggage and ran to the restroom and started crying because I have never, ever felt that kind of love from my parents or anyone who were in a parental figure. It took a ride share driver to give me a 30 second love which I haven't forgotten. That happened 14 years ago. I stopped talking to my Mother who put her men including her ex husband, my 2nd stepfather who was a molester before me and my siblings. She puts her car, her dogs, her shoes, her clothes, her purse, her jewelries ahead of her children. None of her children talk to her and we're forever the devil children to her. I'm in a good place now. Thank you for your channel.

I made so much progress in freeing myself when I stopped reacting to my mother when she tried to trigger me. Blank face and walk away.

What’s hard is that narcissism is a response to their inner hurt, and you love them and feel their pain, so as a child you want to make them feel better. But you have to learn you can’t fix it for them. They have to do to work of healing themselves. I see narcissism as a childish refusal to grow up and deal with one’s own problems.

I went no contact with my narcissistic mother 4 years ago. I saw on my phone I had “blocked” voicemails so I took a look. It was from her a year ago. Each voicemail she acted like things were peachy and there was never any issue and said things like, “you can’t stay mad at me forever, you only get one mom. You should call me I haven’t heard from you, you know, in a LONG TIME.” You’d think 4 years of no contact a normal parent would want to know why. But not my mom. She still sees ME as the one who’s in the wrong…

Mother is so loving and kind to me when I’m going through a tough time & I’m in pain either emotionally or physically. BUT if I am thriving and living my best life and achieving goals and happy, she will do anything to pull me down, insult me, and try and steal my happiness.

Sad disrturbing stories in the comments. Won't waste your time on mine. Just good to know Im not alone.

My narcissist mom made a bunch of horrible lies about me and used those lies to kick me out of the family and her life as her excuse to be rid of me. I could never understand why she had no love me my whole life. I was never good enough for her.