Why did the narcissist BREAK UP with you?

They only want someone who will kiss their ass and not question anything that they do!

Forget what you feel, remember what you deserve. Narcissists fake love you, until they don't need you anymore.

It's a great thing if they breakup with us. We may not know at that time.

I stopped going along and started questioning things. I think this caused a narcissistic injury and he broke up with me!

Dr. Ramani has this uncanny way of uploading a video with what I need to hear at the moment.

After a more than a decade of having the life sucked out of me, I became difficult because I couldn't keep up with the demands and not having any help or support from him. He'd threatened to divorce me multiple times those last few years, and the final time he said it, I agreed because I was tired of him being such a garbage person and my life going literally nowhere because I had given him all my power. There was nothing left for him to crush or destroy because he'd smashed it all. I was discarded. A younger woman replaced me, a coworker that he conveniently never told me about though they'd worked together for a few years at that point. He remarried less than a year after our divorce was finalized. Nobody falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs a place to live. My life isn't great, but it's mine. After three years of trying to get my health back in order, going to counseling, and figuring out who I am and what I want to do, I may be on the road to contentment. Thank you, Dr. Ramani. Hang in there, survivors. Internet fist bumps to all of you. You'll get through it if you keep going.

If they tell you good bye consider that as a gift.

I needed this so bad!!! He broke up WITH ME after he abused me for 2 years, and is now playing the victim just because we got into an argument that I “started” so that was his get out free card to blame everything on me! So mind Fing.

I’m still single and not dating. Not interested right now and the person would need to be extremely special to change it.

The new supply!!! He had turned 75 and found a 48 year old woman online. During the pandemic they had a big romance and affair. He became cocky and sadistic to me and wouldn't tell me why. Finally he admitted his betrayal and I didn't hesitate. I got a divorce and left him and everything. He's married to her now and looks like an old man. I know what life with him was like so new supply deserves him! 😂 I'm really happy to be free of the abuse. Thanks again Dr. RAMANI ❤

Although my husband of 23 years discarded me, I feel that I was actually the one to end the relationship because I would no longer put up with his abuse and I gave him an ultimatum. He chose abuse, and simultaneously discarded me. Took some time to get back on my feet because he kept the house and most of the stuff in it (threatened to bankrupt me in court by dragging it out) but I'm still much better off without him (PS He tried to replace me multiple times but none of his new relationships actually stuck).

Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective [email protected] for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

Those last 30 seconds of the video -- breaking up with us the GREATEST thing they will do (for us). Took me four years after discard, but I realize the toxicity I had learned to live in. My life now is fulfilled, peaceful, meaningful with no nonsense. Hang in there if you're having trouble.

I was broken 💔 for several years because of this happening to me. He even divorced me for a DOWNGRADE, then he died at 35yo, 7 months later 🤷‍♀️ GO figure.

She discarded me because her mother taught her that's the way you treat people.

My spouse ran off with an ex; couldn’t even bother to fish for new supply. When I realized how shallow this person I married was, I was shocked. Took my heart a long time to catch up to my brain. And yes, Dr you are correct, it is a gift but it should be called something else because I like gifts. 🦋

OMG, yes! They think that they will never age!! Just broke up with a horrible narc! She just turned 70, but acts like a petulant and uncaring 15 year old. Her circle of friends shrinks by the day and she still doesn’t realize that she’s going to die alone.

Wonderful, as always Dr. Ramani. 30 years with a narc husband; 28 years of chipping away at my heart and breaking it; the last 2 or so allowed my heart to heal before he filed for divorce. He's in his 70's and moved to a senior complex in the Midwest. In all the chaos he brought, the greatest thing he ever gave me was removing himself from my life!

My Narc Ghosted me because he couldn't control me. I'll live 🙂. 🍒

I had someone who'd never apologize when wrong and in the rare moment they did it was, "sorry but you made me do that and that." On the other hand I'd be branded as the problem in the relationship and I was told I'd be cursed when refused to engage in the toxic drama cycle. She'd talk about how I was unfaithful to strangers (her flying monkeys and supply) when I was buried in work to provide. She's gone now. Peace.