Your 3-Step Guide to Setting Better Boundaries at Work | The Way We Work, a TED series

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Published 2023-03-15
Know you should establish clear limits at work but not sure how to do it? Here are a few strategies from relationship therapist and author Nedra Glover Tawwab that can help you feel more empowered and less overwhelmed, both on and off the job.

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All Comments (21)
  • Saying it REPEATEDLY doesn’t always work either and that’s when you realize the other really doesn’t respect you at all
  • @amanatee27
    I recognize your voice from your audiobook Set Boundaries, Find Peace! Such an exceptional book and your cadence is so impactful, I recommend it to anyone who brings boundaries up. Thank you for your work! [:
  • @funnytv-1631
    You can alter your environment so that it nourishes you. Start with something little, like leaving out your journal and a pen. Or having a clean teacup ready. Or a blanket that has a soothing scent. Or a clear path to the window to let in some fresh air. All these details may sound tiny, but don’t underestimate how things add up. Sow tiny habits into your day as silent as an unnoticed breeze.
  • Struggling with boundaries and a difficult client. I liked hearing that my boundaries need to be followed through, or to the client, they assume it can be trounce down due to the business they give me. 🤷‍♀️. Also dealing with a difficult business partner who opposes everything I set for theses boundaries.
  • @vilmaduka6376
    Thank you. Very helpful insights for my presentation
  • @newadventure3109
    I love ❤️ this. I have learned these exact things for myself and worked to implement them in my family relationships and have been surprisingly met with resistance and silence 🤐 😢. However, due to that reaction I have come to learn, people need time to adjust if they aren’t in a place to act in ways that you are asking them to in a relationship. So I wait. But while waiting, I continue in me and what I enjoy. When we get older friends aren’t what they used to be. Friends would be for life’s good and bad things. I don’t have any at this time as I would need what I have given others over the years and found they just can’t reciprocate. It isn’t worth it now as my needs will not allow the work needed to put in. I need someone to choose to put in the work for me this time around and it just isn’t happening for me. Older has a quieter lifestyle. ☮️ it can be priceless. No one to reciprocate with. Freeing. Let me say that again. Freeing. Only one who lives it could understand the quagmire it creates. Lessons Learned here.
  • @maryseo.
    Nedra always has interesting insight. Thanks for this video🙏🏾
  • @Bill0102
    I'm captivated by the clarity and insights in this content. A book with comparable insights was a defining experience for me. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
  • @CandyLemon36
    This is an exceptional piece. A similar book I read was instrumental in reshaping my life. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
  • @hikicha
    What a brilliant set of thoughts told in a simple language
  • @sky_izm
    I work in an environment where attendance is part of the metrics. We have sick leaves and vacation leaves. Then they made sick leaves as something that would be deducted from your stats if you take it. Crazy right?