Reciprocated Validation

He ignored what she JUST SAID, so that he could tell her about how she ignored him. Hmmm. Sounds like the last 42 years of my life. Spot-on.

This is so true, sadly i learned it the hard way.. Don't ever set ur feelings aside so u can validate other's, take it one at a time i promise u his feelings are just as important but everything has a right time

As the validator in relationships, this is completely true. It is exhausting to not be able to express your feelings and needs without having to comfort the other person when they deflect. I’m learning not to do it. “I appreciate that we’re both bringing up topics that are important to us. Since I brought up mine first, I would like to us to address it before moving to the next one. I promise that’s next.”

That's how I broke up with my ex boyfriend. He wouldn't communicate his discomfort and then would "pay back" with other behaviors to punish me. Even when I asked him when I felt that something was wrong. If you don't see any kind of improvement on such occasions,run. A person cannot so easily change unhealthy patterns unless they decide this for themselves. It's a waste of time and energy. Relationships need a lot of work to be preserved and If only you are willing to work on that with proper communication then you're just too good for them.

Wow. Your methods of delivery just get more and more effective

I thought 'Wow! She did so well to validate his feelings and not get triggered by his response!" But nope! Wrong again!🤦🏼‍♀️

It's very nice to hear those short expressions like "regardless of which gender it is". With this way it''s feeling less implying what genders were picked for the roles of the sketch itself. Thanks man ❤

Thank you for talking about this!! It's frustrating because you never hear about their problems with you until you bring up your problems with them. And if its been a problem, then you should have brought it up at the time. But instead you held it in and now you can use it as a way to justify your behavior that I'm speaking about right now.

This happens to me but I didn't realise this happens to me until I just saw this video.....

I’m not even in a relationship right now, but I love your videos ❤ So emotionally intelligent! 👌

I love these. Acting them out is so helpful. Seeing it like this makes it easier to see it in real life compared to books talking about it (which also have their place but).

I'm so glad that you brought this up.

yep, you hit the jackpot there

This is definitely my husband and me. Also allows them to deflect from what they did.

Damn Jimmy - you are a relationship genius! I really enjoy your little skits and snippets great stuff appreciate your profound insights and straight to the point ‘tips’ - it may seem like common sense to some but you have a real skill with your words and sensitivity 🙏🙏🙏👏👏👏👏👏👏👍

Can we have a video where you role-play the healthy way to respond when this happens? It felt all-too recognizable, but I don’t know where to go from here.

That’s SO true. In my past relationships, I got into this trap so often, and I felt helpless not being able to shar emy feelings without being attacked back.

Excellent! Thanks Jimmy!

Wow, that’s awesome! I definitely see what you’re saying and it’s been going on in our relationship, but I didn’t catch it, thank you so much for pointing that out. You’re so awesome!

At 0:28 I GOT IT!!!! It both stings and brings a relief in the form of recognition as I look to unravel HOW THE HECK I said yes to a man who was SO wrong for me, this, THIS!!!!!!!! Thank you! ✨💖