Our Coming Out Story | Dustin and Burton | Raising Buffaloes

Published 2020-08-19
We wanted to share our coming out stories with you. It's always hard walking through the struggles we faced, but we feel it might be helpful to some of you who are conflicted with being gay or curious about what a gay person faces when coming out. As always, thank you for all the love and support you give our family and us. Much love to all of you.

Meet our family. We are Dustin and Burton, gay dads, and proud parents of our twins, Stone and Holland Buffaloe. We created our family vlog, "Raising Buffaloes," as a resource for all. We are an All American Family, who happen to be gay parents through surrogacy. On our channel, you will see videos of our family adventures and grasp what it's like to raise kids in the south as a gay couple. Our dad vlog captures our parenting and fatherhood journey, but you'll find much more. We open up about our coming out journey, relationship and marriage tips, and how to live life with a little more laughter. We use our voice to shed light and awareness to the LGBTQ+ community, gay rights equality, and opening eyes to others. Family has many definitions, and this is ours. We hope you subscribe and follow along our journey of raising our little Buffaloes.

HELPFUL RESOURCES
The Trevor Project - www.thetrevorproject.org/
It Gets Better Project - itgetsbetter.org/

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MUSIC
Epidemic Sound - www.epidemicsound.com/
(Intro) Wildflowers - I Won't Waste This - www.epidemicsound.com/track/UvlPzKBa5c
Martin Landh - At Last Part II - www.epidemicsound.com/track/zBJOIOuZ9x/
Ebb & Flod - The Scent Of Earth After Rain - www.epidemicsound.com/track/AlTItgHJxk/
Dust Follows - Swan - www.epidemicsound.com/track/7gn3ZIiKg6/

INTRO PRODUCTION & EDITING
www.foragedfilms.com/

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All Comments (21)
  • @smilingv1921
    I am a 62 year old mother. My daughter came out to me when she was 14. I remember her crying so hard. I asked her what was wrong and she said she was afraid to tell me. I told her no matter what it was that it would be ok and that I would love her. So she finally told me she was gay. I said ok and gave her a big hug and told her that I l still loved her. She asked me why I wasn't mad at her. I told her you love who you love. Her and her wife live with me now and she is 36. I wish all parents would be excepting and supporting of their children when they come out to them. I have known many gay couples since my early 20's and have always been supportive. You love who you love!
  • My uncle came out only when he was dying of AIDS. He fully expected rejection by the family. We all accepted him and supported him through the last difficult years of his life. Nobody should have to fear rejection from those who love them most. We’re all just people.
  • @hpapi9849
    when burton cries .......it's already tears on dustin's eyes..... that is the true love.......... LOVE is LOVE
  • I'm 16. My parents are so conservative and I gave some little hints to them that I was gay and there were so mad at me so I changed the topic. But I came out to one of my friend and I feel happy about it. Some day wanna find my own pease in me. Thank you guys for giving me hope and love.
  • @sarahcasias823
    I love Holland sensing her daddies are sad and coming in trying to make you feel better. Her little sweet face, being so calm and putting her hand on your backs. She’s precious.
  • @bojogaehw2497
    Did Burton just say he was almost forty? 😲 He looks so young! I'm baffled.
  • @jordanlewis4831
    I came out at age 10, with only a few gay role models in my life. I’m now 17, and living my life proudly. So happy to know that there’s always hope and new role models in this world! 🥰
  • @liberty622
    In coming out to my brothers in the early 80's--my parents were already dead -- I had opposite reactions. One was negative and is still in that frame of mind. However my other brother with a strong Christian faith said something I will cherish to the day I die. He simply asked me, in a long distance phone call, if I was gay. I was terrified of admitting to the truth. I took a deep breath and said "yes I am". I waited for the explosion and he said -- " If you ever want to bring a friend or a partner home, he will be more than welcomed in my house". There was a long pause and then I burst into unbelievable tears. There were no other words that could have been said that would have made me feel more acceptable. The words have had an enormous effect on me and my life. He has since died but his memory lives on in my mind -- etched forever. There are good people in this world!!! Thank you both for your videos and showing how a family should live.
  • @richyrich480
    This is what I needed... After 29 years I am beyond tire of hiding in shame and fear... 2021 is the year, I am ready!
  • Being from an orthodox family I can imagine how terrifying it is to come out. Though I'm straight but one of my closest friend is gay and is struggling to come out. He constantly talks to me about how he feels as if he is not himself. When he came out to me he was crying and looking at him I could feel how important it was for him. We sat and talked about whatever he had in his mind and I told him that I will always be his best friend and support him no matter what. Your story truly touches my heart. I pray all the power strength and happiness to both of you and your kids. Lots of love ❤❤
  • dustin i could relate with on so many ways. burton you made me cry when you started to cry. it was different in the 70's and 80's but as a community we are so much better now as we fought for the right to have kids and marriage. your story shows that life can be all we dreamed it could be.
  • @joshkeller8685
    I have a similar background to Dustin, and I just have to say I needed that cry this afternoon. Whoever may be reading these comments and is feeling the same, reach out to somebody and talk about what you’re feeling. (I’m here too!)
  • It's never easy. In 1994 when I met my husband, I had come out to my mother but after Michael and I moved in together we had no contact with my family for many years. I love you telling your stories and sharing your loving family with us.
  • @sebastienz2425
    I can’t stop crying from watching this. I am a 35yo African gay man, I work and live in the US. I have been married to a man for over 5 years now and I still haven’t come out to my family. I am still terrified by the idea of coming out to my parents. I have been through everything that Dustin went through except that I still don’t have the courage to come out. Thank you for inspiring me. I feel ready to tell my family about my sexuality and my husband. I love you guys ❤️❤️❤️
  • @lyanosama7212
    I'm straight but this was so emotional I literally cried 😢u guys r amazing
  • @jslasher1
    How anyone could give this inspiring video the thumbs down is beyond me. I offer all my love to both of you for your honesty and your dedication to each other. Your children are very lucky indeed.
  • you can really tell when the other speaks how much love these guys have for each, it's beautiful to see and so representative of how important love for one another is
  • @wnymann
    Thank you for sharing your coming out stories. What an inspiration. I am a 64 year old man who came out two years ago. I can understand the liberation and freedom after acknowledging being gay. I was married 25 years until my wife passed in 2002. I raised four sons to adulthood. They are amazing young men and they know that I am gay. They just want me to be happy. I too grew up in a conservative church and even pursued the ministry . I raised my family in the church. I had gay feelings but they were buried. I know all about the churches teaching on homosexuality and how sinful they claim it is. I got hurt very badly by the Christian Fundamentalist Church time and time again. I have left the church and do not wish to return. I have been the happiest these last two years after coming out in my life. Yes there are still some struggles that must be over come but it is liberating to be myself.
  • @ted1091
    You guys are so awesome. I came out in 1974. Things were very different then. We had no choice but to fight. When I hear your stories, I realize it was all worth it. Thank you for sharing your stories. I'm glad you found each other. You're an inspiration