We all need a Conflict Director (Funny)

I like to watch these sorts of conflicts being modeled in a way that helps both partners feel heard because its not something I grew up with, so it does not come intuitively to me. Having a frame a reference to show how I can respectfully share my feelings helps me to make sure that when I express a frustrating to my partner, they are able to hear what I am saying and not feel attacked. 😊

In the early stages of our marriage, my husband used to get so mad when I say “you never…” or “you always…”. Took me a while to get why he would be so upset, but now I try not to use those phrases anymore. If I catch myself accidentally saying it, I rewind and apologize before clarifying.

Thank you very much for this. So many relationship "coaches" villify and disrespect the opposite sex of their target audience. Others teach how to identify what's going wrong, but do it in a way that allows the wronged party to also not mature and just feel self righteous. But the way you do it is funny, lighthearted, easy to see and understand. You model it in a way that isnt just educational and validating, but also applicable. Thank you for using your platform for such good and not harm.

To tell you the truth, I used to be a woman who accused my partners of being narcissists while being one myself. Many things helped me, but only your relationship videos showed me how to handle conflicts, even though I've read a thousand psychology books, and went to therapy and tried really hard to make conflicts less intense. My partner has intense emotional reactions, and I was raised in a home where we swept everything under the carpet, so I never learned to address problems. I am forever thankful! Y'all women out there - there is no "fault," only "cause," and this cause is always on both sides. Be happy, be in love, and at peace.

Hurt people hurt people. Healed people heal people.

Holy hell! This needs to be a series! It’s so helpful to see the iterations and progress

Thank you for giving tips to how all parties can improve their communication skills.

I'm so glad I stumbled upon Jimmy. He's going to help me heal and transform after a lifetime of being in toxic environments has given me lots of toxic traits and communication "skills"

So... what do we do when we do this the "right way" again and again and still no "dishes done" (or insert other problem here) until we finally scream and yell and THEN he does them. It teaches us to scream and yell because all the respect and vulnerability doesn't get the necessary outcome. Even though I don't want to scream and yell. Is it their childhood? Like they waited for their Mom to yell and they're repeating the pattern? What the heck is the psychology behind this behavior? I should be able to have a respectful conversation with my spouse and when he agreesto do something he actually does it. When I agree to do something, I do it, no yelling necessary. Why can't he?

These funny ones that show how people actually talk to eachother are really helpful! Keep em going! 🤩

Thank you for breaking it down so well. I will drop, "You make me feel", and use "when you xyz, I feel." No one can make you feel... that's an inside job. The situation can make you feel a certain way. Love this!!❤❤

Bahahaha! Changing one's spots takes a while, but with you, at least it's hysterical 😂

I literally thank God for your videos, Jimmy!! Thank you for modeling healthy for those of us who need to see it!!

Such talent. Such heart- for all of us you're trying to help. It's working!! Thanks. P.S. you're funny too

so familiar to me: my ex (a narc) said why he has to clean toilet in my timetable..not when it suits him. Didn't say anything..waited 6 weeks: nothing happened and said to him about it. He said: oh, just recently cleaned it..😮 He never did anything without me asking/telling him about it. He had quick answer to everything like: 'I have to change tyres and do snow work. ' Told him that it's not the same compare a twice a year work or snow work (he had forbidden me to do it as he has his own system) and leave all the dishes, cooking, laundry, cleaning the house with vacuuming and all to me as I worked outside of our home and he worked at home. I underlined that my tasks are non-stop routines all year around. Not a twice a year jobs. No response... Well, after I divorced him he had to do all in that house by himself. 😂

If that last one doesn't bring good results, maybe, you're not the problem.

Exactly! I have a 35+ year old VHS from Gary Smalley that suggests the same thing: never say "you always" but rather say "when (___) happens it nakes me feel like (___)". Why put the other person on the defensive?

This is bringing back memories of improv and drama classes. So we'll say "Yes, and.......to what your scene partner says"

lol I really like how you give us "real" examples of what to say instead of just principles!!😊

So much to learn and practice. Thank you for this great video.